I had an abortion in 2015, at the age of 25. It was an easy decision and a routine medical experience. I don’t buy into the “no one takes this decision lightly” narrative and I have never performed the shame and strife we are meant to exhibit to demonstrate that we are worthy victims. To force psychological pain on me for this decision is just to punish me – for having sex and not apologising for it, for choosing my own comfort over what is expected of me under patriarchy.
I feel no shame and have no regrets. If I hadn’t had this experience, I wouldn’t have pushed myself to help others learn about and access abortions. I may or may not decide to become a mother one day. If I do, I’ll talk about abortion openly with my child. Silence hurts us – and there are so many silences to be broken.
