Sometimes the right decision is the hardest one.

by shannon

March 15, 2023

My ex broke up with me the night before I found out I was pregnant. We were actively planning for a baby, had a first and middle name picked out, and spent countless hours dreaming of who the baby would be and what the baby would look like. The breakup was unrelated to the pregnancy but it just so happened to occur the same week I was late on my period.

Immediately following the breakup, I knew I had to take a pregnancy test. I’ve never had a pregnancy scare and my doctor told me it could be difficult for me to get pregnant. Seeing the two lines on not one but two and then three pregnancy tests was exciting and heartbreaking at the same time. The co existing emotions now and then have been so challenging to deal with.

When I told my ex I was pregnant he was adamant that he wasn’t mentally prepared to have a child with me. He told me he would support the baby but that there would be no relationship between me and him. I was terrified; I had no idea how to comprehend the situation or how to move forward. I don’t have strong family support and I’m not financially stable even though I have what most would consider is a good job. Ultimately, I decided to have an abortion because it was the best decision for myself and for my future. The procedure itself wasn’t challenging but the waiting, the wondering, and the what ifs have haunted me.

To anyone considering an abortion, I stand with you, I feel your pain, and none of us are in this alone. You are so much stronger than you think. <3

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