Some people are just not meant to be mothers…

by nai

November 21, 2022

I myself have never had an abortion, but I still want to share this. My parents immigrated to the US in order to go to grad school. They didn’t have much money, and were living in an RV that the school provided for them. My mom got pregnant with with while still living in an RV, and decided that she could not take care of a baby and also attend school at the same time, so when I was six months old I moved in with my grandma in her home country while my mom finished up her education. My mom was living in Louisiana at the time getting her doctorate, while my dad was in Kentucky because he had already graduated, and moved there for a job. Needless to say, not the best environment for a baby to grow up in. My mom never flat out told me, but it’s quite obvious that I was not planned. Growing up I definitely did not have the easiest childhood, as I was physically, mentally, and verbally abused. I definitely didn’t have the best relationship with my parents, but it’s getting better.

The other day I saw a billboard and it said, “aren’t you glad your mother chose life”. This pissed me off so much. Firstly, no. If I was aborted, I wouldn’t have had to suffer the years of abuse/trauma that I had to endure, simply because my mom, and dad aren’t the best fit parents. I wouldn’t want any woman, let alone my own mother to be forced to carry a pregnancy that she wasn’t ready for. Especially given the situation she was is where she was still a student, and lived in a tiny RV… Any person even without those circumstances should be able to decide if they’re ready to care for a child or not… I’m glad my mother had a choice in what to do, but not everyone is so lucky, I’m so grateful that my grandmother was willing to raise me for the years that she did. However not every pregnant person has a parent willing to basically parent their kids, so they should be able to choose if they want to be a parent or not. Long story put short, in my opinion at least, it’s so much better to just get the abortion when you know you cannot properly provide/be there for your kid rather than having the baby and, making it have a miserable life. (Like in my case.) Do what’s best for you, and don’t let anybody persuade you into doing anything otherwise. At the end of the day, it’s YOUR body, and YOUR life, not theirs. I stand with every single one of you, and just know you’re not alone <3

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