Relieved, Pain free and thankful ♥️

by Tye

April 1, 2020

I can’t believe I’m writing this, but I want you all to know that this isn’t the worst thing you can go through. Think about all of the other terrible things women deal with on the regular. It’s okay to feel scared, it’s okay to be nervous and anxious. I was just like you and now I’m 5 hours post abortion and I’m feeling better than ever.   RELIEVED!

Here’s my story, I started dating this guy ( my current boyfriend ) it was very fresh, very new. I decided the second time that we had intercourse to allow him to release in me. “No worries, I’ve done this before” I thought to myself. “ I never got pregnant before.”  I then went on a girls trip with my girls! The best time of my life. I drank non stop, partied and clubbed non stop. I get back home from the trip and I still have no worries.

I then realized that I haven’t gotten my period that month. STILL no worries. My periods are abnormal anyways. Another month goes by, still no period. By February I begin having excess spit and slight nausea. I still didn’t take a pregnancy test, I kinda just knew. I called a local center here in VA and I set up an appointment for my consultation. The day comes, I freaked out and didn’t go. Now it’s Valentine’s Day, I thought to myself “I can’t have a bloody Valentine’s Day, so I’ll push it off another month”

Now it’s March, the symptoms are getting worse. I can’t deal with it, so I make my appointment at planned parenthood now. They scheduled an appointment a week away. I built up the courage to go to my consultation appointment. Everyone was so sweet, I made my payment of $130 and went on back. The nurse took my blood pressure, made me pee in a cup, took my blood for my blood type and then walked me back for my ultra sound. I then find out that I’m 16 weeks pregnant. Here in VA if you’re 18 weeks you’d have to go to a different type of hospital, so I prayed that I’d be able to get an appointment the following week.

They were able to schedule me, one week away for two appointments. My first appointment came. I walked in, payed my $792 because I have tricare insurance I wasn’t able to use my insurance due to the fact that they unfortunately don’t cover abortions. I went back, the nurse directed me to pull my dress up, take my underwear off and lay in the bed with my feet up. The doctor came in, she was very sweet. She explained what was going to happen and proceeded to so. She rubbed a gel on my vagina, used something to open me up, she then placed a numbing gel in my cervix which felt like slight cramps. She tried to place three Laminaria sticks to dilate me. Two of the sticks wouldn’t stay due to my cervix being so small. They allowed me to go home with one stick in. The cramps were pretty bad around 3 hours after I got home. I used a heating pad and went to sleep.

Today, the day of my appointment my boyfriend drove me and due to the virus he couldn’t stay in. I got called back, the doctor told me I still wasn’t dilated enough. She then took the one stick out and applied two more. I then had to sit in the waiting area for 4 hours to allow my cervix to dilate. 4 hours later, I get called back in. I was very nervous, very scared. The doctor arrived in the room, with three lovely nurses. I was told to get undressed from the bottom down. The very sweet doctor then took the two Laminaria sticks out and then one of the sweet nurses placed an iv in my hand for the sedation. I felt the sedation kick in instantly, they talked to me the entire time and ensured me that everything was okay. I can’t remember much but I do know that I didn’t feel much of anything. I was then wheeled to the recovery room, where I was placed in a chair with a heating pad. The nurse took my blood pressure and gave me a ginger ale and gold fish. One of the other nurses came in and checked my blood flow, which was light. I then went back to my chair, ate and waited for my boyfriend to come through the back to get me. Zero cramping, zero pain. We ate at chic fil a and then we went home.

Now 5 hours later, I’m on my regular routine. Zero pain. Zero, cramping and regular flow of bleeding. I feel very relieved. I feel normal. I just want to let you all know, there’s no reason to be afraid. I was petrified, but this went so smoothly and I don’t feel happy or sad about it. Just RELIEVED! 

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