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No Regrets: Medical Abortion

by Anonymous

October 4, 2018

This year, I had a medical abortion at 5 weeks and 2 days. I’m in a monogamous relationship of 5+ years, and we both love kids and eventually want some of our own. But not now, not then. It wasn’t time, we were both in college in specialty programs (still are), both living with our parents, and neither of us had a job. We could barely take care of ourselves. When I have children, I want to do what’s right by them and give them the best I have. But that was not something I could do. But why do I have to justify myself? It simply was not the right time.

 

At  first, I was scared. I grew up in an overly religious family that completely disagreed with abortion. I have heard so many rumors about how it will ruin your future chances of having a baby, about how painful it is, about the depression that comes after.

Then I was angry and regretful. At myself. For not being more careful, for putting myself in this situation where I had to choose. I’ve always wanted to be a mother after all, but why now?

Then I was determined. It wasn’t the right time. I talked to my boyfriend, and he supported my decision no matter what I chose to do. So I decided to go with the medical abortion.

I’ve read some horror stories on the internet about medical abortion, and I know everyone is different and gets the abortion at different stages. This is simply my experience at 5 weeks and 2 days. But let me just say that many people come on the internet when they have a problem and are looking for a solution / have a negative experience. For me, It was very simple. I went to Planned Parenthood. I got checked and I got the first pills. I took the 2nd set the next day. I had some cramping, but it was just like heavy period pain. There were lots of clots for 5 hours until I passed the largest one. After that, it was just medium period level bleeding. Light occasional cramps. No horror story here. Just a woman, without regrets for her decision. It was the right thing to do for ME. The overwhelming feeling I had was relief, not regret or depression.

And I hope everyone in a similar situation would have at least one person supportive of them. But even if they don’t, it’s so important to make your decision for your body. Only you know you well enough to know what you can/can’t handle.

Thanks for reading!

 

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