I grew up in a home daycare and was the oldest of 5 kids. My mom had me right out of high school and started her own daycare because my dad wasn’t around. I always thought when I became pregnant, I would be the happiest I’d ever been and devote my life to having a child because of how much I loved caring for kids growing up.

I found out I was pregnant less than two months after meeting my current boyfriend. We were both 21. I knew if I kept the pregnancy, the baby would end up with a broken family, just like I did as a child. I knew neither I or my boyfriend were ready. It broke my heart, but I knew if I kept the pregnancy, I would be giving myself and my child a lesser life than we deserve. I chose to have an abortion out of love for myself and the family I hope to have one day. I chose to wait to start that family until the time is right.

It has been almost a year since my abortion, and I still have not told my family. My mom gave up a lot to have me so young and I know she would not be supportive of the decision I made. Luckily, two very influential people in my life have had abortions before me. When I feel sad about what my mom would think of my decision, I think of those people and the other strong people who have gone through an experience like mine. I think of how lucky I am to have those people to look up to, and how I can be that person for someone in the future. My boyfriend and close friends have helped me find closure and I know I will be an amazing mother one day, when the time is right. Until then, I am proud of my decision and I will continue to #shoutmyabortion and to stand with others in their experiences.