Medical Abortion: The Pill

by Trish

July 6, 2020

On June 10th 2019, 6 days after my birthday I had a medical abortion, the pill.

I was an immigrant at the time going through the process of becoming a resident. I was on the pill, and it happened.  I had no health insurance and no job. My husband was barely making  just enough for the both of us. We decided (mainly my decision of course) that we could not keep it, it’s be a high risk going through a pregnancy without insurance as an immigrant that wouldn’t be able to afford medical bills, neither afford a child at the time. I went to Women & Teens Healthcare clinic located at North Miami Beach where I got the pill which included some specific painkillers, total $400.

I did mine at 9 weeks because my husband and I needed to save money for it, it was almost late to do it but did it in time. I decided to do it when everyone was at work all day because I have social anxiety and felt like it’d make me feel worse if someone was beside me (it’s up to you if you want someone beside you to comfort you).

I followed the instructions they gave me for the painkillers and the pill.

I took the first painkiller (it’s the strong ones, was included) and then half hour after, I took the actual pill, that forces the uterus to have contractions pretty much, horrible cramps, I felt constipated too because the contractions were pushing against and I couldn’t poop which hurt my lower back. It was agony, it felt like my lower insides were going to explode.

I think it’s different for every woman but the first hour it was kind of tolerable but then the pain increased more and more, and the  painkillers that I took accordingly as prescribed are like every eight hours so I had to wait and to deal with the pain, I decided to be in bed on my knees and curled up forward with a pillow tucked between my legs and stomach to keep pressure there with a heat pad, it helped a lot. But I still cried and howled in pain for another 1-2 hours (i was glad nobody was home to hear me). I guess the first 3-4 hours  are just the worst. So 4 hours after I first took the pill, when I got up from the bed is when I felt big gush know, and I ran to the bathroom and I was in the bathroom for about another hour, it comes out in chunks and I honestly could not tell what was what but it just looked like a very very heavy period with liver looking pieces.

But obviously it takes a toll on you also mentally, any type of abortion will. The women I saw at the clinic who did it surgically and were resting looked in pain too, I think as much as I did at home but idk.

So for that day and the day after it was very heavy bleeding, still cramps happening but not as horrible as the contractions from earlier, with some chunks here in there so had use some very thick absorbent pads (not use tampons) take up a lot of rest, still continued to take the strong painkillers as prescribed I think it was for about almost two days they lasted, and then after those ran out, I continued to take Tylenol.

Continued using heating pads and used a pillow between my legs for extra comfort as I rested and slept at night.

I had continuous bleeding for little over 2 months, it was tiring, exhausting. Im not sure if at some point it was my period coming back or not but they say usually the abortion bleeding last for about 6 weeks, give or take. If anyone reading this and this happens to you, if you can, go to the clinic for a check up, my clinic they gave me a post abortion free check up within 30 days, they did an internal ultrasound where they insert the thing inside to check and there was nothing, but I was still bleeding.

I got back to my regular menstrual cycle like 4 months after the pill.

Remember that your emotional and mental health is important too, there’s support videos and blogs out there about other women who had abortions and they share their stories and how they healed too 💖💖

No a problem, and you are strong too! and if you proceed with it, I promise you’ll get through it whichever way you decide!

Seeing support growing for us women who’s gone/going through has definitely helped me emotionally and mentally, and helped heal me by seeing videos and blogs about women who experienced it and share their stories. Makes me feel less lonely one story at a time 💖🌸🌸👭🏻👩🏼‍🤝‍👩🏽👩🏾‍🤝‍👩🏼 👭🏻👩🏼‍🤝‍👩🏽👩🏾‍🤝‍👩🏼👩🏿‍🤝‍👩🏽🌸🌸🌸♥️♥️♥️

My husband and I plan of getting pregnant next year, 2021 if we feel we are financially stable enough after this pandemic affect too.

Remember that our stories are ours to tell. We’d love to hear your story too!