I don’t know how it happened, or who to blame, or if that matters, or if I’ll ever want to be pregnant. But I know it was and is the right thing, and I’m so thankful for the option. I never felt any doubt or regret about my decision – not before, during, or after – but even 17 years later I still occasionally wrestle with the shame and stigma. I hope for a day when that’s not an issue.