It’s going to be ok

by Kiki

March 21, 2023

I am a 24 year old female who has unfortunately experienced 2 unwanted pregnancies over the last five years while trialing a multitude of non-hormonal birth control methods. After finding comfort in the many abortion reviews I read while temporarily pregnant I promised myself when it was all over I would write a review myself. When I first found out I was pregnant I remember being extremely scared and didn’t know what to do. I turned to the internet to try and research as much as possible to know what my options were. Luckily for me, I live in a state that supports abortion rights (California) and I learned that my health insurance would cover it. I was also very lucky that I had a super supportive partner that knew he wasn’t ready to be a father but never pressure my decision. I had known from the beginning that I was nowhere near ready to be a mother and that was enough of a reason for me.

I called Kaiser and told them when my last period was and they told me I was too early along to come in for an appointment. I counted down the days until I could finally go in, and I was experiencing extreme morning sickness, nausea, and fatigue. I was early enough along to choose the medical abortion option which I was grateful for. I took the first pill in the office and signed a waiver then went down to the pharmacy to pick up my “goody bag” of the second dose, pain pills, and instructions. I waited until the next day to take the abortion pill and I can admit I was really scared for what was to come. This is where I would like to compare my two separate abortion experiences. The first time I took all the pain pills out of fear and just lay in bed watching movies. I bled heavy and experienced clots but after two days I had still not passed the pregnancy. On the third day after taking the abortion pill (which is abnormal but everyone’s different!) I began to experience very intense cramps, which were a bit worse than my worst period cramps. I now know those were contractions. I took the last pain pill I had and laid on the shower floor so the hot water could cover my back. I then felt a strong urgency to poop so I ran to the toilet. My body was telling me to push. I pushed and heard a loud plop in the toilet and looked down to see a clot that was a little bigger than a golf ball. I had successfully passed the pregnancy.

The second time was completely different! After I took the abortion pill I knew that I should try and keep myself moving around as much as possible so I could speed up the process. I decided not to give in to the pain or fear and I actually went out to dinner (wearing a maxi pad of course). I never had a dramatic moment where I felt myself pass the pregnancy. It just felt like a heavy period. I was actually worried that because it was so uneventful it didn’t work but at my follow up appointment the doctor had confined it was a successful termination. In both cases I would consider the experience very manageable. Being pregnant for two weeks was much worse than the actual abortion in my opinion! If you’re going through this I wish I was there to tell you “you got this”! You are valid in your decision. Not being ready is enough of a reason. Make sure to take those pain pills, order some yummy food (if you can keep it down), and light a candle. 🙂

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