It doesn’t always have to be this taboo thing…

by Analisa

May 26, 2020

I had an abortion on October 12, 2014 after having my first child at 16 in 2007.

I was not with the father, it was just a hook up and the condom broke after I made him walk about a mile down the the gas station at midnight before we did anything. I thought I was being responsible and safe, since it was a random hookup.

About three/four weeks later I had a feeling I was pregnant and I walked down to Walgreens and bought a test. I knew I didn’t want that baby the moment I saw the test was positive. I knew I didn’t want to be stuck associated to the guy either, he was a loser.

Neither of us had a car and he had just gotten a part time job at Burger King and I had an interview for a PT cashier job at Arby’s. We both were working less than 40 hrs a week at $8.25/hr with no benefits. He was about to be kicked out of his apartment for not ever paying rent. His cell phone was turned off because he couldn’t even afford to pay that. He didn’t even have a HS diploma, much less his GED. I only had about a year and a half of college education, but no degree. Just a HS diploma. I was 23 and he was barely 21.  His plan was to immediately sign up for the army and he thought that would be the magic solution to all of our problems.

He was completely against me having an abortion and would yell at me that I was “killing his baby”. I didn’t care. Not one bit. He even went so far as to call all his family and invite them all out to lunch at once to “share the great news” that he was going to be a dad to try and get me to feel guilty and not go through with the termination.

I made my appointment and I’ve never once regretted it. I’ve never once thought “oh, but what would that baby have become?”

I was 7 weeks when I terminated.

I’m now almost 29 and 10 weeks pregnant with my second child. I have been with the father for over 2 years, we have a house, he has a great job as a welder, his parents are amazing in every way. I know that the only way I am able to be so happy and excited for this new baby because I terminated the embryo back in October 2014.

I am so lucky to live in a state that gives allows me to exercise my rights and that I have 100% control over my body. Abortion isn’t always this huge deal that you have to feel guilty about. Sometimes you even want to celebrate because of how happy you are afterwards.

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