I simply chose me.

by Nicole

September 14, 2021

I had an abortion 10 years ago. I was 21 and dating a guy that lived in England but was in America working at a camp for the summer. I was also working at a camp and by chance we met. We spent a wonderful 3 months together before we had to go back home. We knew our relationship wasn’t going to continue once he moved home and we were happy just being friends. I found out I was pregnant a few weeks after he left. I was on birth control and we used condoms. I do remember one time there was spillage but wasn’t worried because of being on the pills.

I was going into my senior year of college, worked less than part time and knew my options would set me back from how hard I had worked to get away from home and start my own life. I came from a fairly broken home life and was still putting the pieces of myself together again. I wasn’t sure if I ever wanted to be a mother or not at the time, but I knew I didn’t want to become a mother the way it was happening in that moment. Plus, I knew I’d have to do it alone since my partner lived abroad.

I knew I’d terminate the moment I found out. I was so lucky to have the support of friends and family to get through it. I didn’t know anyone who had had an abortion (openly) and that felt embarrassing and isolating. My partner who had gotten me pregnant paid for my abortion. I had it so easy compared to the many stories I now here as a volunteer with an abortion fund. My life since my abortion has exceeded my wildest expectations and who knows, maybe I will become a mother one day.

Ultimately, I chose myself. I chose to save my own life and I’ve never regretted it. 🤍

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