I had an abortion. In fact I had two, many years apart and always for the same reasons, was I strong enough to go through those nine months plus forever? Did I have the money to feed and care for a child? No. I am not having a child I cannot feed.
Both were vacuum aspiration procedures done in the first trimester. Both times the man involved knew and respected my decision.
I did the right thing but I hate how you have to think hard about who is safe to talk to. I told my half sisters. I thought they needed to know a choice was possible. That it did not mean you were a bad person. I could not tell my mother. She would tell everyone and cause trouble. So I could not tell my only brother since he would tell mom. After twenty-five years, she died and I could finally tell him.
