I’ve had two abortions with my current boyfriend. On the first abortion we were only together for half a year and I knew I couldn’t keep it because I didn’t even know if I wanted to be with him for the rest of my life and our relationship was so new at that point and I knew I wouldn’t be able to have a child at 22 years old. It wasn’t hard for us to come up with our decision and I decided to get a medical abortion.
They sent home with a pill and some ibuprofen and it was the most painful thing I’ve ever experienced in my life. The doctor told me it would feel like menstrual cramps but a little more intense and she was right because the pain was over a 10. I felt sad for a few weeks after it happened but it didn’t take long to feel better. Fast forward to 1 year and 5 months later I got pregnant again. We were being careful because we didn’t want the same thing to happen again but I had accidentally inserted the wrong dates of when I got my period on my tracking app and we had sex without protection and I had this weird feeling to just check my tracking app and then I noticed I put the wrong dates in. When I fixed them I hoped that we didn’t have sex on the highest chance to get pregnant date but of course we did. I got a Plan B the next morning and I read that it’s highly unlikely for it to work if you had sex when you’re ovulating but I still had hope. A few weeks later my period wouldn’t come so I decided to take a test and it was positive. I was heartbroken because I never wanted to do go through an abortion again.
At this point my boyfriend and I had been together for 1 year and 11 months. We had our abortion a week before our 2 year anniversary. Our relationship was different this time. We loved each other more and we knew that we were it for each other but I still wasn’t done with college and his military contract wasn’t over yet. It hurt so much to make our decision. We cried the days leading to my appointment. We were both hurting more then we did the first time. The day of my abortion he couldn’t come inside with me to planned parenthood and I went in for a surgical abortion this time. On Fridays they only have appointments for that stuff so all the women in there were all there for same reason as me. It felt weird, the room was quiet and it felt cold. I honestly don’t remember much of what happened it’s all a blur but as they were doing the abortion I cried. I couldn’t stop crying but I also wasn’t hysterically sobbing. The doctor told the nurse to tell me to stop crying or she would stop with the procedure. She was very rude and I will always remember those words. It was quick a lot quicker than I thought. They put me in another room to recover for like 30 minutes I think. I cried some more and one of the nurses came to me and she told me that I had to relax because they couldn’t let me go until I was under control. A few minutes passed by and she came back to tell me that my boyfriend was right outside the door waiting for me in the car. She walked me out I went into the car I cried into his arms and we left. We’re still together and I couldn’t imagine having gone through that with anyone else. We’re both more careful now and hope to have children sometime in the future.
