I am in a happy 12 year relationship, 6 years married, 2 steady incomes and own our own home. To most people this is the perfect storm.
But it wasn’t on our life plan. Finding out I was pregnant we both had a “oh no” reaction. My gut instinct was abortion, he needed some time to just wrap his head around it, it didn’t feel real and I had a 24hr period of thinking maybe he did want this. I didn’t push my opinion, we talked it through multiple times. And both came to the same mutual agreement:
“We would be great parents, but we don’t think we’d be happy ones.”
The biggest guilt I had at the time and still a little now (only 3 days post abortion) is that so many people yearn for this moment and their own biological child and we were “throwing the opportunity away” but you have to realise, it’s ok to put yourself first. Your life, your partner’s life with you, your body and your soul.
