Empowered to speak up about my abortion

by Speaking up!!!

February 5, 2021

I am a 24 years old living in Virginia. I had a medical abortion, administered from an independent clinic, December 20th, 2019 – close to a year ago now. I am grateful to share my story, as I know personally that reading abortion stories of those brave enough to share has been one of the main resources in my healing process and has helped me find empowerment surrounding my abortion.

At the time of my abortion, I was 23 and my boyfriend was 25. I found out I was pregnant when I was 8 weeks along. It was a Sunday and I had my abortion that Friday. I was caught off guard but knew immediately I would not be going through with the pregnancy. I simply was not ready, we weren’t ready and still aren’t ready for kids. The clinic we ended up choosing provided me with a comfortable, smooth process. The facility was clean, the equipment was up to date, and the staff/doctors were very kind and more than willing to answer any questions I had. It was a pleasant experience and I am forever grateful for them. Since my experience, my boyfriend and I have bought our first home, both received promotions at work, and are even welcoming a new puppy very soon! This is our path, our story, and our way. No one else’s journey but mine. As I mentioned before, my abortion has EMPOWERED me. After 2-3 weeks of strange unidentifiable feelings proceeding my abortion (which are completely normal to experience), those feelings turned into a passion for educating myself on the issue of abortion through online articles, podcasts, and anything I could find really. I felt I had shed a part of me that was so (sadly) “blissfully unaware” and had just stepped into my true divine self as a woman. I now feel the most confident, self-aware, connected, and powerful than I ever have and I will keep on this path. I know I made the right choice for myself and that I do not have to build a case to defend that! I know I can manage my life on my own terms, and so can you. I realized I am so much stronger than I even knew.

I would also just like to say – I believe this movement of “story-telling” about real abortion experiences is one of the most powerful tools we have right now!! I was hesitant to share but realized I must utilize this amazing resource and be part of something bigger than me. Thank you to all of those women who have shared, those who will share, and those who support. I see you, I hear you, and I will be walking with you! I also understand those who may not feel destined to share at the moment and I understand, and that is perfectly okay too. I have only shared with three people including my boyfriend (so far). It is not easy for me but I plan on starting to speak up as I know it is so vital to the movement. I am committed to breaking my silence about my abortion. This should no longer be a “political football.” The issue being thrown around is women’s lives. The taboo around this issue is degrading and a distraction. I know everything happens for a reason and maybe I am strong enough myself to use my voice as a tool to educate and empower others. Maybe you are too. We will end this stigma. I love you.

Remember that our stories are ours to tell. We’d love to hear your story too!