Don’t be afraid to tell people

by Vivien

February 26, 2021

When I was 18, I accidentally got pregnant. I never wanted to have children and decided to have an abortion. Even if it wasn’t an easy path, I have never regretted my decision to this day. I find it incredibly important that abortions are legal and accessible, and yet I was very ashamed of my own abortion and afraid other people might judge me for this step. That’s why I’ve never talked about it openly during all this time, not even with my boyfriends.

I dated my last boyfriend for two years and we happened to watch a report on abortion and self-determination. Then I said how important and good I think that is and realized that he did not share my opinion. I was quite surprised and decided to tell him about my past because I didn’t want to be ashamed of it anymore. When he told me that this makes me a murderer in his eyes, a world collapsed for me and I was shocked. How could he have such an opinion? I broke up with him after that but it was such a big wake-up call for me. I don’t want to be silent in the future, no matter how people react to it.

Maybe this saves me from wasting another two years on someone who has the emotional abilities of an apple. 😉

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