Abortion is child loss too.

My husband and I tried for almost a year to get pregnant with our first baby. I knew she was a girl from the moment I got my first positive test. She was all I ever wanted. We did NIPT at 10 weeks and she was high risk for Turner Syndrome. A censored google search and denial told us that she would probably be fine. There are celebrities and athletes that have it and they’re living their best lives. A consultation and ultrasound with a high risk OB revealed that she was already dying. She was in heart failures with multiple congenital defects that were completely incompatible with life. One of her conditions would lead me to develop heart failure during my pregnancy. I could either wait to miscarry her and have to do so in a hospital and labor her because we were too far along to manage it at home or try to make it to term while risking my life in the process. If she survived birth, she would immediately have multiple emergency surgeries that she would not survive. We chose termination at 15 weeks out of love for her and for myself. Abortion is just as much of a loss as miscarriage or stillbirth and it happens to wanted babies too.