I was only 19 and had been with my boyfriend at the time for less than a year when I found out I was pregnant. I had missed my period for about two weeks when we finally took a test, even though I knew I was pregnant deep down. It was positive as expected and the blue cross popped up clear as day.
The problem was, my ex is a stoner, was very emotionally distant and I did feel used sexually our whole relationship and I am still healing from that. That’s why I knew I only had one choice. He laughed when we found out I was pregnant like it was some sort of joke and I was also cheated on during this whole process which made things so much harder and we broke up within a month of the abortion and have never spoken to this day nor do I ever plan to.
Once I made the appointment, I was nervous but the people were so nice and accommodating at the clinic. The lady spoke me through everything and we spoke about future contraception options, too. There was no judgement, as there shouldn’t of been.
I didn’t tell anyone except for him until recently and now only a handful of others know. This has been really useful for me but I know I am lucky to have the support that I do (just know you will too even if you have to look for it).
Another point is I continued to go to work through all of the tough hormones and the pain, all for the fear that my family would find out. Please take time off to heal and look after yourself as this is something I wish I had done looking back as I wasn’t fit to be working.
My advice is do tell people and don’t try to do it all yourself like I did for so long. I am now reaching out for help through counseling. There is no weakness in admitting you need a bit of help and I have realized how strong of a woman I have turned out to be three years on now. I am so proud of myself and everyone other girl/woman who goes through the same thing. It has changed me for the better which is something I never thought I would say. Pro-Choice always🤍you can do it.
