Tips on Medicinal Abortions

by Jen

October 19, 2018

About 8 weeks ago, I found out I was unexpectedly pregnant.  My boyfriend and I had no plans to have more children, as he has a 7 year old from a prior relationship, and I have a 6 year old from a prior relationship.  I opted for a medical abortion at 8 weeks.  This is my second termination in 2 years.  I have some tips to help get through it:

1.) Take time off work, if you can.  At least a day, preferably 2-3.

2.) Stock up on maxi pads (duh), but some inexpensive adult diapers isn’t a bad option here.  There is a lot of fluid and tissue that will be passed, and unless you know how your body will pass it, backup is a good idea.  I’ve had 2 abortions, 3 miscarriages, and 1 live birth, so I’m familiar with how my plumbing reacts.

3.) Try not to leave the house much.  You don’t want to be far from the bathroom when you start passing the majority of the blood and tissue.

4.) Heating pads will be your best friend.  I have one electrical and one I made out of 2 bags of inexpensive rice and an extra tube sock.  They worked together really well.

5.) Avoid standing or sitting for long periods of time, for blood/gravitational reasons.

6.) Depending on your body, you may experience quite a bit of pain and cramping.  Stay on top of the ibuprofen and Tylenol #3 if your practitioner prescribes that for you.

7.) Take it easy on yourself.  You may have a wide range of feelings, from sadness, guilt, and depression to relief.  Or All at once.  Hormones are coursing through your body right now, and that can affect everything from how you feel emotionally to how you feel physically.  Right now is not the time to be promising domestic favors.  Get a few good movies or find something good to stream on Netflix and relax.

8.) It is helpful to have a close friend or therapist during this time.  I had one of each, plus my supportive boyfriend.  It is okay to ask for help if needed.

9.) Keep in mind: your current situation is not your permanent destination.  The amount of blood and tissue that you are passing should subside within a day at most.  If you are soaking more than 2 maxi-pads for more than 2-3 hours at a time, call into your practitioner’s office to see what they recommend.

10.) Don’t let the pro-lifers scare you.  Statistically, this is a very safe way to end a pregnancy.  There is literally more danger crossing a street than having this done.  It can be painful and messy, but remember: it will be over soon.

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