No Regret but indeed pain.

by Brandy

May 17, 2021

I had an abortion / termination for medical reasons.  It’s hard for me to say those words or even type them. Society has taught us to hate ourselves for this. The truth is, millions of women experience abortion every year. It’s common, normal. There is NOTHING morally wrong about it. It is stopping a possibility. I didn’t end a life. I chose to keep MY life…

Abortion saved me from taking the risk of going blind or developing serious, permanent vision loss at age 19. After developing rare, serious vision and retina/corneal health conditions I found out I was pregnant. In early pregnancy (before I was aware I was pregnant) I started having worsening visual disturbances. After seeing the positive test, I knew that abortion was my best option. I don’t deserve to suffer from blindness, cornea transplant or visual disturbances making me unable to drive, work or raise a child in the future. I deserve to heal my eyes and health before carrying a baby.

I have no regret. I do have sadness and I do wish I was never in the position to make this choice. It’s been three months. The healing is a process but if you make healing your priority it WILL happen. You CAN have a happy, amazing life after abortion. It is NOT the end of anything.

It is hard to picture how life may be if I was healthy. What would’ve happened. But that’s not my reality. I deserve to be healthy. I deserve to preserve the crappy eyesight I have left. I deserve love and support and so do all of you.

Keep fighting the good fight ladies. Our time on earth is limited. Push forward. Whether you walk, crawl, run or roll. NEVER give up on yourself. Heal no matter how long or what it takes.

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