I am 23 and I have had 3 abortions. YES I HAVE!

by Heather

August 2, 2018

I am proud of who I am. Picture is from the Rogue River Trail west of Grants Pass, Oregon

Birth control does not always work! Do people not realize that? Why do people think that I should have a child because of an accident? Why Should I be forced on changing my life for something that I never wanted? Why should I have a child knowing that my life is not ready for such a change? Why do people say that I should burn in hell? Seriously, do you think I should be living on welfare and food stamps and living in a little studio apartment with a child that I can barely take care of? SERIOUSLY!?!?

And yes….TEENS HAVE SEX! GET OVER IT!!! We ALL do it!! I feel like talking about teen sex is just as bad as talking about abortion.

At age 16 I goofed. Yes, I goofed. I’ll admit it, I goofed. Should I say it again? I goofed!!! For some DUMB pathetic reason I had sex without a condom. It’s a long story but hey it happened. Was it worth it? NO! Did I like the boy? YES! LMAO! I knew I was pregnant before I knew I was. The GOOD thing about this is that I have always had a wonderful open relationship with my mom, and I had no problem telling her (it wasn’t easy but I told her).

My first abortion was on August 25, 2011 at Lovejoy Surgicenter in Portland, Oregon. I was 8 weeks 3 days pregnant (this is based on the last period). Yes, I did cry. No, it was not easy! No, I have no regrets.

At age 19 I took a 3 week journey on the Pacific Coast Trail. I did this on my own. LOVED IT! On that trail I found another hiker, a guy who was traveling solo. Long story short we had sex. And sadly I had no condom with me (my backpack already weighed 49 pounds). And BTW the withdrawal method only works when you withdrawal BEFORE ejaculation! I knew this rule, but either he didn’t or simply forgot about doing it (sarcasm).

I had my second abortion on September 14, 2014 at Lovejoy Surgicenter. I was 10 weeks 4 days pregnant. The appointment was originally on August 29th but during this time I found a new job and ended up having to rearrange my schedule. having an abortion at 10 weeks was a little harder just because I knew I had something in me, but doing it was still the right decision.

For the last couple years I have been in a loving relationship with a great guy, I am and have been on the pill, but it doesn’t always work. We found out that WE were pregnant back in March (2018).  Originally we were thinking of keeping it, but in the end a decision was made for us. We both got ourselves a seasonal job at a National Park for the summer, something we have been working on for the last three years. No way could I be massively  pregnant for this job, it’s just not possible. This job was outdoors with some very rough work involved!

WE had my third abortion on May 5, 2018 at My Choice Medical Center in Van Nuys, California. We did it here because my boyfriend could join me in the room during the procedure, The idea that he wanted to join me was a true blessing and made me feel more comfortable because of it. I was 12 weeks and 4 days pregnant, we waited this long because like I said before it was that ultimate seasonal job that made the decision for us. I told everybody but my mom that I had a miscarriage as I didn’t want anybody on knowing the truth.

All in all I just wish that people would look at abortion was just another surgery. No way could I be a mother of 3 children right now! JUST NOT POSSIBLE! I am 23, I have a good life, I don’t want to destroy it because of a bunch of children that I am not ready for. Doesn’t that make sense? I have ZERO regrets on what I have, sometimes I do wonder about the WHAT IF, but in the end I know I make the best decision for me.





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