At 23 I made a mistake. Wrong man, wrong time. Barely could house and feed myself. No regrets.
20 years later I have two kids a great job (after having attended grad school), and a loving partner.
Tired of the shame.
I am less affected by my own experiences than I am worried about those of others.
One abortion, zero regrets
I had no delusions about doing some prospective kid a magic life favor by dragging it into my dysfunction.
Totally worth the hoops WI made me jump!